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Saturday, March 28, 2020

Dress up days

 Before the idea came out on social media, I told Faith we should do "dress up days" like they do in school and sent it out to family members and have them share their photos.  As usual, I am more ideas, less execution, but Bella took it upon herself to come up with her own dress up days this past week, no help at all, with the exception of getting it on.

                                  Jersey day - yes she is wearing toddler-sized football shoulder pads

                                                                      Dress like a cowboy

                                                                      Super hero day

Week 1

I can't say how many days we've actually been "at home" and it differs for many because some went into hiding before others and some waited until the most recent "Stay Home" initiative.  What I do know is that we had our 1st week of "work from home" and "distance learning" or as I am now referring to it as, the School of Lock(down), and I am the assistant principal/teacher, Mrs. QuaranTina.

The first 2 days had it's challenges, most of which included learning the in's and out's of all these apps on school devices that I probably should have known about, but honestly haven't done much with.  Challenge #2 is child #6.  She loves having her siblings home, but now that they have to be occupied with schoolwork and not playing with her constantly, she is not enjoying that much.  Parent guilt comes in when I have to occupy her with technology just so we can get a Zoom meeting in (or 1st grade Language Arts) both of which require my attention and leave me with little patience.

Next week will be an even bigger challenge as the 3 older kids begin their schooling and we will then find out how good our internet service is.  Until then, we are going to enjoy our time inside together (not like the weather is giving us an option) and gather up the energy to start a new normal, for now.

#staysafe #stayhome #coronavirussucks

Thursday, March 19, 2020

The "C" word

With an ever-dwindling calendar and before the kids begin "Distance Learning", I feel now is a good time as ever to drop in a post on my less-frequented blog.  When we look back on this time, the words "Coronavirus" and "COVID-19" will either seem like a time when we learned a lot, or we lost a lot, or maybe even both, but hopefully it will be a time that we get down to what really matters.

Our kids have lost some things that are very important to them, time with friends, tournaments not played, challenges not met, events not attended and opportunities they had to let go of...for now.

What I hope we gain through this is a sense of what is really important.  That we are together as a family and not ripped apart from a dictator who wants to kill us because of our beliefs.  As Father Mike Schmitz videoed today, something that can never be taken away from us during this or any time, prayer, fasting and almsgiving.  I think back to Saint Maximillian Kolbe who was thrown into a concentration camp room to die of starvation after he offered to take someone's place.  What did he have?  Prayer.  He didn't have much choice but to fast, but I imagine he offered up his pain and suffering to the Lord.  Almsgiving - he never stopped putting others before himself, even when he seemingly had nothing to offer. 

I asked everyone at the dinner table last night to think of ways we can help.  I can say I was a little disgusted when everyone said, "Nothing. We can't do anything to help. We're not supposed to go out and help."  Point not taken!  We'll have to keep working on that one...

Some positives I have taken away so far (we're not many days into it, so it just feels a little like a break) is that we have this opportunity to be fully together, no activities, no expectations, no events to plan for.  As an introvert, so far, the social distancing part is not an issue whatsoever, but I have found myself working to communicate better with those who need the interaction.  Some of us have embraced learning new things or working on organizing the messes that have gotten away from us.  Bella has enjoyed having all of her siblings around as well as the opportunity to play with them more since they can't be distracted by other kids.  The kids that need the social interaction more are utilizing technology, which has been a balancing act, but during this time when their worlds have been turned upside-down, I have been allowing them that time to socialize in that sense.

So, as we journey on this uncharted path together, my prayers are with the world and that this pandemic brings out the best version of humanity, verses the ones that hoard toilet paper and hand sanitizer, and that we will see the beauty of creation in each other through God's eyes.

Happy Feast of St. Joseph!

Wednesday, September 4, 2019

There's a new lumberjack in town

We spent our long Labor Day weekend doing just that...laboring!  In order to save, what now seems like a measly, $300, we rented a boom truck and did the scary work of getting the tree to the ground on our own.  Jason did the scary high stuff while we watched in anxiousness and some amazement as branches fell.  The pics don't do justice, but here's the progression of the day...




What you don't necessarily see is the mess that involved each stage of trimming.  Jason could only get so far and then had to move the truck to a different spot, but we had to clean up all the wood and branches before he could do that.  The truck and trailer on the road shows how full it got (and there was another truck and trailer) and we also had a pile of wood in the driveway for pieces that were big enough for firewood.


 AJ wanted to run the chainsaw too, so after some advice, we let him go & he really enjoyed it!  There were moments when both him & Jason were sawing and it sounded like one of those lumberjack competitions.  I don't think the neighbors got much napping in over the weekend!


This last part had us just as nervous because we just didn't know how rotten this tree was and we didn't want it to fall on Jason as he was cutting.  It all worked out well & when this bad boy fell, it felt like a small earthquake.  Faith said she felt it in the house through the chair she was sitting in.  I was in the neighbor's driveway, and I could feel it there also.

The darker part of the tree is the rotten part and you can see it effected over half of it, so it was a big hazard to have around and needed to come down.  I took a hammer claw to it & it broke apart like a sponge!  Jason whittled away at it the next day and said it was rotten all the way into the ground.  We will have a contractor come over with a stump grinder to mulch up the rest, but until then, Bella likes having another obstacle to climb and jump off of. 

If any of you are thinking that tree removal is in Jason's future, I would bet that he would graciously decline and leave the scary work to the professionals.  We were just trying to save $300.

Thursday, August 29, 2019

Bella's vocab

Being the youngest of 6 has it's advantages and disadvantages.  I personally would not know, but as our family grew from 2 to 6 kids, I notice with each one that there are challenges they deal with that the older ones did not, one being having a huge vocabulary when you have a family that understands your needs as well as older siblings that tend to talk for you.

I honestly didn't have much concern, but doctor appointments tend to increase your awareness and concerns that you aren't doing enough.  I honestly don't get overly concerned when 2 year olds can't carry on a conversation in perfect english.  I think her babble is adorable because with 5 older kids, I know that soon enough she will be talking back and telling me how uncool I am.  So for now, I enjoy having one child that enjoys every moment with me (except when it's time to come inside) and the challenge of figuring out what in the heck she is talking about.

Needless to say, the doctor recommended speech therapy where we go once a week so I can watch someone play with my child to get her to say more words.  They have found out that she is a great communicator and is good at changing the subject, all without using many words.  I don't know if either of us has learned much more in the past 6 weeks, but she is talking more, and I don't know if one can credit speech therapy or just the fact that she's nearing 3 years old.  Here are some of her new words and phrases:
"No, mine!"
"I toot!"
"I teed!" (peed)
"I want go outside"
"I want nom nom." (that's food, especially the yummy kind)
"I want more nom nom." (usually regarding chocolate)

I think that basically covers every need, other than sleep, which she is good at communicating by either naughty destructive behavior, crawling in my lap, or grabbing me by the hand to go "night night".  Regardless, we'll keep working on speech therapy while quietly enjoying how adorable it is when she talks fast like this, "yabba gebba debba ppffbb!" (that last part is a farting noise...I don't know how to spell it.)  And how could you not enjoy everything that comes with this face!



"God will provide"

Last week the kids started school and at the St. Ed's School Open House, the principal shared with us her concerns for needing (in a short time frame) a kindergarten teacher, an administrative assistant (to replace the one who was with us for nearly 20 years, and preschool teacher for a new program to start in the fall.  Each time she would share her concern with Father Craig, he would say, "God will provide" and as the time grew closer to the start date of school, she naturally would go to him in concern and he would repeat, "God will provide".  She learned a great deal of trust, and needless to say, God did provide without a moment to spare with the preschool teacher lining up on the day of the open house. 

Her story of learning a new level of trust struck familiar feelings with me and our journey the past few months.  My last post had us wondering what Jason was going to do for work and we too were in the "God will provide" boat of being able to do not much more than trust in His will in our lives.  When school ended in June, we were still not sure what to do.  We had a couple of options, but wasn't quite sure how things were going to turn out.  Eventually it came down to 2 choices of: a job that he was hoping for with long workdays and weekends and less pay, or a job that he wasn't thrilled about with no nights or weekends and double the pay.  If you know Jason and his work history, you will probably guess which way he leaned, and in the end, it worked out to his desire anyways, but not without a great deal of trust.

As the end of June approached, so did the end of his current contract and after a 2nd job interview, we were awaiting an answer.  Of course, summer schedules at schools and colleges tend to slow down and people naturally go on vacations, so you have to wait until the right people are back to work before you can move forward.  As we hit that last week of June, we thought, "what if this doesn't work out?", "what are we going to do for work after this week?" and the wheels were turning even faster as we worried about how we were going to make the finances work.  Mind you that my paychecks were also going to stop at then end of the month until the new school year started, so we were looking at zero income and with only a month's worth left of savings.  "Jesus, I trust in you" and the familiar, "God will provide" were the phrases that would come to mind and as stressful as it could have been, I honestly was the most trusting as I have ever been, because I knew there really was nothing I could do about it.

I am happy to say that a few days before his last day, he received word that he got the job as an Assistant Activities Director at Southwest Minnesota State University (SMSU) and is in charge of events & ticketing.  He finished his old job on a Friday and started his new job that Monday.  He is enjoying his new environment and is now in the first official week of a full campus and all that entails.  He has had his share of challenges, but is facing them with determination and hard-work ethics.  We are getting a taste of what his new schedule is, but know that he is where God wants him to be.  Although last year was a tough one, we are thankful for the opportunities God gave us and can see His grace working through them. 

Some days are mentally, physically and financially more straining than others, but I keep turning to those phrases that got us to where we are now and know that we may not have all that we want, but we have all that we need and that we just need to patient and hopeful that it will get easier down the road.  If it doesn't, then we still know that God is with us and He will give us as much grace as we are open to to make it work.  Thank you to our prayer warriors for keeping us lifted and for doing more for us than we deserve.  I know I am not great at keeping in touch or making conversation, but know that in my heart and mind I am always grateful, always humbled and always thinking of those who give so much to us and deserve so much more than what I often offer.  In my defense, here are 6 reasons of what I consume most of my days with...and I am totally fine with that!

First day of school
A.J. (11th), Faith (8th), Laney (10th) at Minneota school
Ian (5th), Bella (almost 3!), Noah (1st) at St. Edward School

Saturday, April 6, 2019

Proverbs 3:5-6

We have come to another transition in our lives and this time we are putting total trust in the Lord's plan.  Jason has decided to resign from his position as Activities Director and will be closing the book on that chapter of his career.  After much discernment, he came to the decision that it's not where he wants to be anymore.  It's been a difficult few years, and I think we both thought that it was going to be much better once we got back into Minneota, but that was not the case and this year has solidified his decision. 

For the first time since we've been together, he has no idea what is in store for him for a job.  All he knows is that he needs to be done & has put total trust and reliance that the Lord will lead him in what His plans are for him.  I'd have to say that as terrified as I should be that our main income earner for our family of 8 has no idea what he's going to do after June 30th, I am at peace with his decision and have faith that this will all work out ok. 

So for now, we continue to pray for God's guidance, and the wisdom to know what it is that He wants us to do, and until then all we can do is, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart & lean not on your own understanding.  In all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight."